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Rebecca Holden's avatar

I know I read this when you'd first published it, Sabrina, but having dived into Geography of Home this afternoon on a long-overdue catch-up of glorious reading I've noticed that I hadn't hit the heart or commented!

Lovely to see Ventnor Botanic Garden here - it's a super place. We were there a few years back for a family birthday - my parents had rented the holiday cottage on site, and in the evenings we had the garden to ourselves!

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Tim Little's avatar

As I have aged, I have reflected on my oldest friendships, still valuing them despite the decades of rust that have intervened between (what has in most cases been) our spatially disparate lives. My attempts to reconnect with these old friends have sometimes led to disappointment, due to an asymmetry in our desires to reconnect, but in most others to a happy success.

Your line, "It turns out we are not the reliable friends you can count on to be there for you" made me think about my several friends in the "here and now." Each of them disappoints me at times, in certain small ways. This line of thought immediately makes me acknowledge to myself that I must fall short of their expectations, too. So, while I can, I treasure their company and kindnesses, letting the small stuff brush on by, and hope that they will do the same for me.

Thanks for stimulating these thoughts!

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